I keep getting stuck trying to figure out where the drinking ends and the anxiety starts. I’ll drink because I’m tense, then wake up feeling more anxious, guilty, and on edge. By evening, that feeling makes alcohol seem like the quickest way to shut everything off again.
The frustrating part is that stopping drinking hasn’t instantly made me calm. Some days my anxiety feels louder without that escape, and I start wondering if I’m actually getting worse. I know alcohol has been feeding the cycle, but knowing that doesn’t make the first stretch easy.
I’m trying to deal with both things instead of treating them like separate problems. That means being honest with a therapist, keeping alcohol out of the house, and finding something to do when the urge hits, even if it’s just walking around or calling someone. I’m still figuring out what helps, but I’m starting to see that I can’t wait for the anxiety to disappear before I stop drinking.
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That evening window can be especially tough. I’ve found it helps to plan something specific before the urge shows up, rather than trying to invent a solution while anxious. Even a shower, a short walk, or calling someone can create enough space for the craving to pass.
Also, feeling more anxious at first doesn’t necessarily mean you’re getting worse. Your usual way of shutting down those feelings is gone, so they can feel louder for a while. Being honest with your therapist is a strong step, and if stopping brings severe withdrawal symptoms, medical guidance matters.
@Donnie_Dean, that evening urge can feel almost automatic, especially after a tense day. I’ve found it helps to make the plan very specific before that time arrives, like eating something, taking a walk, or calling one particular person. “I’ll distract myself” is harder to follow when anxiety is already loud.
The increased anxiety after stopping doesn’t necessarily mean you’re getting worse, but I wouldn’t try to push through serious withdrawal on your own. Have you talked with your therapist or doctor about what the first few days usually look like for you?