Overcoming my phobia: a personal story

I haven’t always been the confident, self-assured person I am today. For most of my life, I’ve been paralyzed by a fear of public speaking. It all began when I was in elementary school and had to give a book report in front of the entire class. Ever since then, my stomach tied up in knots anytime I had to perform in front of others or speak out loud.

My phobia kept me from advancing at work and participating more fully in social settings. Slowly but surely, however, I decided enough was enough and took steps toward conquering my fear. First, I identified mental obstacles – thoughts like ‘everyone is judging me’ or ‘I’m going to mess up’ – that got in the way of progress. Then, I looked for opportunities to practice speaking publicly as often as possible. Slowly but surely my confidence started to build with each step forward and each success big or small along the way.

Turning points during this time included joining a Toastmasters club and working with an online coach who helped me learn proven techniques for overcoming my fear one step at a time. Overcoming my phobia wasn’t easy and there were still times where my anxiety creeped back in from time to time, but ultimately having a mentality that anything worth achieving is worth the work helped me push through it all.

Today it’s hard to believe how far I’ve come from the shy, timid person I used to be–one who was afraid to take any risks or try anything new out of fear that it would end in embarrassment or failure. No matter how scared you may be feeling now, just know that with perseverance you can become the confident version of yourself that you strive for –– just keep pushing!

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I can relate to this post – I, too, have faced fear of public speaking for a long time. It’s a common battle. However, it’s important to remember that we are capable and will never know what our limits are unless we push our boundaries and try. There’s no doubt that fear still creeps in from time to time, but I’m learning to take it one step at a time and use my fear as motivation. Whenever I feel like giving up, I remind myself why I’m doing it and how far I’ve come already.

Your experience is inspiring and something we can all draw from. Like you said, having the mentality that anything worth achieving is worth the work is key. Sounds like you have come an incredibly long way - Congratulations!

Wow, your story really resonates with me. I used to struggle so much with public speaking too, and it held me back in so many areas of my life. It’s amazing to hear how you were able to identify your mental obstacles and take steps to overcome them. Joining Toastmasters and working with a coach were great ideas! It’s inspiring to hear how you pushed through the anxiety and kept striving for the confident version of yourself. I’m currently working on building my own confidence, and reading your story gives me hope that I can get there too. Thanks for sharing your experience and giving me a little extra motivation to keep pushing forward!

Hey there! I just wanted to say how inspiring your story is. It takes a lot of courage to face your fears head on and work to overcome them. I can relate to the stomach knots and the fear of speaking in front of others, so I really appreciate you sharing your experience. It’s amazing to see how you’ve taken steps to identify and work through your mental obstacles, and how you’ve found the determination to keep pushing forward. Joining a Toastmasters club and working with a coach shows just how dedicated you are to conquering your fear. It’s awesome that you’ve come so far and are now in a confident and self-assured place. Thank you for sharing your journey and reminding us that with perseverance, we can all work towards becoming the best versions of ourselves. Keep pushing and keep shining!

Wow, I can really relate to your struggle with public speaking! It’s amazing to hear how you took control and worked hard to overcome your fear. Your determination and willingness to face your mental obstacles head-on is truly inspiring. Joining a Toastmasters club and seeking help from a coach were great ideas, and it’s clear that they made a real difference for you. I love your attitude of pushing through the fear and embracing the work needed to achieve your goals. It’s so true that with perseverance, we can become the confident version of ourselves that we strive for. Your story gives me hope that I can overcome my own fears too. Thank you for sharing your experience and spreading positivity. You’re proof that it’s possible to conquer our fears and become the person we want to be!

Hey, man, I can totally relate to what you’re going through. It’s amazing to hear about the progress you’ve made in overcoming your fear of public speaking. It’s not easy, but you’ve shown that it’s totally possible. I love that you identified those mental obstacles and found ways to practice speaking publicly - that’s a huge step. And joining Toastmasters and working with a coach? That takes some serious courage. I know what it’s like to have anxiety creep back in, but the fact that you kept pushing through is so inspiring. I’m sure your story will give hope to others who are struggling with their own fears. Keep up the awesome work, man!

Hey there! I can totally relate to your experience with public speaking anxiety. It’s great to hear how you’ve been able to overcome it. I love that you took the time to identify the mental obstacles and actively work on conquering your fears. Joining a Toastmasters club and working with a coach were great steps to take. It’s inspiring to hear that you didn’t let the anxiety hold you back and kept pushing forward. Your story is a reminder that with perseverance, we can all work towards becoming the confident version of ourselves. Keep up the great work!

Hey there! Thanks so much for sharing your experience with public speaking. It can be really tough to overcome a fear like that, but it’s awesome to hear that you’ve made so much progress. I can totally relate to feeling anxious and nervous about speaking in front of others. It’s amazing that you took the initiative to identify your mental obstacles and actively work to overcome them. I think it’s great that you found opportunities to practice public speaking and sought out resources like Toastmasters and an online coach. It’s all about taking those small steps and celebrating each success along the way. Your story is really inspiring and gives me hope that I can overcome my own fears too. Keep pushing and remember that you’re not alone in this journey! We’re all rooting for you.

Hey man, I just wanted to say how much I admire your determination and courage in overcoming your fear of public speaking. It takes a lot of strength to face your fears head-on, and it’s amazing to hear how far you’ve come. I think it’s really inspiring that you were able to identify the mental obstacles holding you back and take proactive steps to work through them. Joining a Toastmasters club and seeking out an online coach shows how committed you were to making positive change. I’m sure there were some tough moments along the way, but the fact that you didn’t give up speaks volumes about your resilience. Your story is a great reminder that with perseverance and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, it’s possible to conquer our fears and become the best version of ourselves. Keep pushing forward, and I have no doubt that you’ll continue to make amazing progress. You’ve got this!

Thank you so much for sharing your story! It’s so inspiring to hear how you overcame your fear of public speaking. I can totally relate to feeling anxious and self-conscious in front of others, and it’s reassuring to hear that it’s possible to build confidence and conquer those fears. I love the idea of identifying the mental obstacles and finding opportunities to practice speaking – it sounds like a really practical and effective approach. It’s great to hear that you found support in joining a Toastmasters club and working with a coach, too. It just goes to show that with determination and hard work, it’s possible to become the confident version of ourselves that we strive for. Your story is a reminder that it’s okay to feel scared, but with perseverance, we can push through and achieve so much. Thank you for sharing your experience and offering hope to others who may be struggling with similar fears!