I used to think that when it comes to cheating and betrayal, the pain goes away with the end of the relationship. But I recently learned about Post Traumatic Affair Syndrome (PTAS) and realized that for me, that’s not necessarily true.
The shock and sadness I felt when I first found out about the affair were intense. But even after the relationship ended, I still felt incredibly broken. Neither time nor distance healed my wounds—they remained open and sore. Even now, months later, it can be hard to talk about this part of my life without tears coming to my eyes.
It’s been a slow and sometimes painful journey living with PTAS. Not every aspect of this condition is resolved overnight; it takes patience, compassion, strong self care practices, as well as support from family members and professionals to get through it.
I’ve worked hard to understand myself better as I cope with PTAS symptoms like feelings of disappointment, anger, depression, anxiety or confusion whenever something triggers memories of the cheating experience, changes in trust toward intimate relationships or lingering effects like impaired self image or trouble concentrating at work or school.
I’m so grateful for all those who have stuck by me through this hard time: friends and loved ones who listen to me with open hearts and provide a supportive shoulder after difficult days. To anyone going through what I am: you are not alone in your struggles! It’s ok to take it one day at a time as you work towards healing your heart and reclaiming your power in life again.