Let's talk about my fear of people and how it shapes my life

This reminds me of a time when I found myself standing in a crowded café, clutching my coffee like a lifeline. It’s funny—well, maybe not funny, but you know what I mean—how people can feel so distant even when they’re right next to you. I often catch myself feeling overwhelmed in social situations, almost like there’s a barrier between me and everyone else.

I’ve been grappling with this fear of people for a while now. It’s not just about being shy or introverted; it’s more like a constant undercurrent of anxiety that makes me question everything. Walking into a room filled with strangers can feel like stepping onto a battlefield. What if they don’t like me? What if I say something stupid? It’s exhausting just thinking about it sometimes.

I think a big part of it is the fear of judgment. I mean, are we all not a little worried about how we come across? I’ve realized that the more I focus on what others might think, the more I shrink back into my shell. It’s a cycle that feels so hard to break. But then I wonder—what if I shifted my perspective? What if, instead of worrying about judgment, I tried to approach these situations with curiosity?

Have you ever tried talking back to that inner critic? I’ve started to ask myself questions like, “What’s the worst that could happen?” or “What if I’m just there to enjoy myself?” It’s a work in progress, for sure. Sometimes, I even manage to start a conversation with someone, and it feels like a little victory. But, honestly, the aftermath can still leave me feeling drained.

I’m curious to hear from others who have faced similar challenges. How do you cope with feelings of anxiety when you’re around people? Do you have any tips that have helped you, or maybe experiences that shifted your perspective? It can be such a relief to share these thoughts and know that we’re not alone in this journey.