I wanted to share something that’s been a journey for me—learning to breathe when I’m apart from loved ones. I think it’s so easy to underestimate how separation can affect us emotionally, especially as adults.
I used to feel this knot in my stomach every time I had to say goodbye, whether it was a close friend leaving town or even just a brief separation from my partner. It was as if a part of me was tied up in them, and when they weren’t around, I felt anxious and empty. I would replay conversations in my head, worry about what they were doing, or even feel a rush of panic if I couldn’t reach them immediately.
Over time, though, I started to realize that this wasn’t just an attachment issue but more about my own ability to cope with being alone. I began to explore mindfulness and breathing techniques, which have made a significant difference. One of the simplest yet most effective things I learned was to focus on my breath. It sounds cliché, I know, but there was something grounding about just taking a moment to pause and inhale deeply, allowing myself to settle into the moment instead of spiraling into what-ifs.
I also started journaling my thoughts during those times apart. It was a way to express my feelings and fears, transforming them from something looming and heavy into something I could articulate. It felt empowering to put those feelings on paper instead of letting them swirl around in my mind.
There were times I’d find myself overwhelmed, and instead of resisting those feelings, I learned to accept them. I would remind myself that it’s okay to miss someone; it doesn’t mean I can’t be okay on my own. In fact, I’ve come to appreciate those moments apart as an opportunity for self-growth. They remind me of my own strength and resilience, and that I can find joy within myself, regardless of the circumstances.
How do you all handle feelings of separation? Do you have strategies that help you cope? I’d love to hear your thoughts!