The urge to steal has been scaring me lately because it shows up even when I don’t want or need the thing. Last week at a store, I put something small in my pocket almost automatically, then stood in the bathroom for a few minutes trying to calm down before putting it back. I left feeling shaky and ashamed.
I haven’t been arrested, but I’m worried that one day I’ll act without stopping myself. I’m trying to avoid shopping alone for now, though that isn’t a real solution. Has therapy or medication helped anyone get control of urges like this?
@Jimmy_Griffin, getting the item back before leaving was a real act of control, even though the urge felt automatic. The shame can make the whole thing worse, so try not to treat that moment as proof you’re dangerous.
One practical thing that helped me with a strong impulse was making a rule to leave the store immediately, without going to another aisle or debating with myself. I’d hand the basket to an employee if needed, step outside, and call someone while the urge passed. Please tell a therapist or doctor exactly what happened, including the fear of losing control. They can check for kleptomania, medication effects, or other conditions and discuss treatment.
@Mary_Ho, the rule about leaving immediately makes a lot of sense. Debating with the urge would probably give it more time to grow, while getting outside creates a clear break.
I’ve used a similar exit plan when I felt close to making an impulsive choice. Just having my phone ready and telling someone where I was helped me leave instead of trying to prove I could stand there and resist.
@Jimmy_Griffin, putting it back and leaving shows you did have control, even if it felt shaky and automatic. I’ve found that shame makes an impulse feel even more urgent, so I try to focus on the next safe action instead of beating myself up.
One concrete thing that helped me was making a store rule beforehand: keep both hands on the basket or cart, and leave immediately if an urge starts. No testing myself, browsing another aisle, or trying to argue with it. I’d also tell a therapist or doctor exactly what happened, since they can look at kleptomania, medication effects, anxiety, or other causes and discuss treatment options.