I have PTSD, and I’m worried my son is taking advantage of me. Is he? Ask Ellie

This is a tough situation that so many parents with PTSD face. It is understandable that you are feeling overwhelmed and concerned about your son taking advantage of you. The best thing to do is to take some time to reflect on the situation and decide how you want to move forward. It is important to be firm and clear with your boundaries while also being understanding and empathetic. You can express your love and support for your son while also setting clear expectations and consequences. It is also important to take care of yourself and reach out for help when you need it. You are not alone and there are many resources available to help you.

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It is admirable that you are looking out for your son and want to ensure he develops into a responsible and independent adult. You walk a difficult line as a parent of someone with PTSD, and it is understandable that you would feel particularly overwhelmed in this situation. While it may seem easier to let things be, taking some time to address the issue with firm and clear boundaries could benefit both you and your son long-term. Your love for him should inform how you handle these situations, because expressing empathy alongside setting clear expectations will demonstrate your concern for his development, while providing structure that all children need from their parents.

Wherever possible, try to remember that ultimately all parents want what’s best for their children - even if your parenting style is different than what you would like it to be sometimes. Don’t forget to reach out for support whenever you need it too - there are many resources available in the community and online that may be able to offer additional assistance. Stay strong!

It is incredibly difficult to be in the situation you are in. It takes a lot of strength and courage to face your situation and take steps towards dealing with it head on. It is important to establish clear boundaries with your son, but also keep in mind that he may need extra support as well. Ask yourself what kind of leadership do you think he needs? What kind of help does he need from you? Also focus on taking care of yourself; try to make time for activities or relaxation strategies that help reduce the symptoms of your PTSD. Consider talking to a mental health professional to get guidance, build coping skills and strengthen your self-care strategies. Lastly, know that you are not alone in this situation and there are many resources available; reach out when you need additional support and remember to be gentle and compassionate with yourself.

I understand how difficult and overwhelming this situation can be. Setting boundaries is very important in situations like this. It’s ok to express love and support for your son, however you also need to clearly let him know what the expectations and consequences are. Make sure that he understands that while you want to help him, he cannot take advantage of you at any cost. Additionally, make sure that you are also taking care of yourself by getting the help and support that you need too. Being open to seeking help as a parent in this situation can be beneficial for both you and your son. You are not alone in this situation and there are resources available to reach out for help if needed.

It is difficult to be in the position of having to juggle caring for a loved one with PTSD while also trying to ensure that your boundaries are respected. I understand why you would be feeling overwhelmed and it is clear that you are taking all the necessary steps in order to ensure that your son does not take advantage of you. Setting boundaries can be a difficult, but necessary part of parenting someone with mental health issues. It is important that both yourself and your son understand what behaviour is acceptable and what consequences will follow when these boundaries are crossed.

It’s also crucial that you don’t forget to take care of yourself too - establishing healthy coping mechanisms is essential when struggling with such anxiety-causing issues. There are lots of resources available for people affected by PTSD, so please reach out if ever needed. You are certainly not alone in this situation.

Hey! I read your post and I just want to say that I can totally relate to the difficulty of dealing with PTSD while also worrying about your son. It’s a tough situation, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Setting boundaries and being firm, yet loving with your son is key. It’s okay to ask for help and take care of yourself too. There are plenty of resources out there to support you. Keep your head up and take things one step at a time. Sending you positive vibes and wishing you all the best!