You know, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about attachment and how easy it is to become wrapped up in someone else. It’s wild how strong that feeling can be! I guess it started out innocently enough; I was just really drawn to a friend and enjoyed spending time together. But before I knew it, I was finding myself anxious when we weren’t chatting or hanging out. I mean, it was like my whole day revolved around their responses to my texts.
At first, I thought it was just about having a close friendship, but then it hit me: it felt more like I was addicted. I started prioritizing their feelings and opinions above my own, and let’s just say that isn’t a healthy dynamic. I began questioning my self-worth based on how they reacted to me. Have you ever felt that way? Like your happiness is tethered to another person?
One thing that’s helped me through this bit of a rough patch is reflecting on my own interests and passions. I realized that I had slowly let my own hobbies take a backseat. I used to love painting and writing, but all that just faded into the background. So, I decided to pick up a brush again and let my creativity flow—what a game changer! It reminded me that I’m whole on my own, even if I adore spending time with someone else.
I’ve been trying to set some boundaries for myself, too. Like, I’ll give myself a small window for texting (and trust me, it’s tough to put my phone down!). And when I find myself spiraling into those anxious thoughts about the other person—like “What if they don’t text back?”—I remind myself to breathe and focus on what’s happening in my own life.
What about you all? Have you ever felt that pull towards someone that felt a bit too intense? How do you find balance in your relationships? I’d love to hear your thoughts and how you navigate those feelings! I think it’s so important to share these experiences; it makes the journey feel a bit lighter.