Dealing with ocd and marriage

I’ve been dealing with OCD in my life for a while now. It was something that first started in college and has only increased with age. I’ve done the best I can to manage it, but some days are tougher than others. Recently I got married and sometimes the anxiety that comes along with this disorder is a huge hurdle to overcome.

When I’m feeling overwhelmed by my obsession and compulsions, it’s hard to stay focused on my marriage and how lucky I am to have such an amazing partner in life. It becomes more difficult for me to be open about my thoughts and feelings, which can create problems for us both.

Learning new techniques like deep breathing and mindfulness has helped me to stay present during these tough times. And reminding myself of all the good moments we have shared strengthens the connection between us even more. When heading into a storm of anxious thoughts or intrusive images, I may not always have control over them at first, but if I consistently practice these skills they tend to become more manageable and less debilitating as time progresses.

It’s challenging when you suffer from any mental health issue so getting married can add another layer of difficulty or pressure when managing your daily routine. But if you surround yourself with understanding people who love you unconditionally, amazing improvements will start to happen over time as long as you keep working at them every day.


Hi there,

I understand where you’re coming from in regards to the challenges of managing OCD in your life, especially now that you’re married. It can feel overwhelming to try and stay focused on all the goodness around you while dealing with this disorder.

I’m glad to hear that deep breathing and mindfulness exercises have been helpful for you! They are wonderful tools for staying present and handling difficult times. I think it’s important to remember, however, that it’s okay if these techniques don’t work all the time. We can learn so much by acknowledging our current state of being and reflecting on what we need in each moment.

It’s never easy managing mental health issues in any capacity, let alone when part of a marriage - but support, kindness, and understanding from a trusted partner can go a long way! Even small gestures like taking time out throughout the day to check-in with each other or practice calming activities together can make a real difference.

I’d like to encourage you in your journey - finding coping methods that work best for you is an ever-evolving process but I believe true progress comes from self-compassion and patience. So keep remembering how lucky you are to have such an amazing partner by your

Hi there! It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time with your OCD. Navigating both marriage and managing symptoms of your disorder can definitely be very challenging and it’s amazing that you’ve been able to do the work to find ways to cope. It’s important to remember that marriage itself can present an entirely different set of anxieties and relationship dynamics, but finding tools like deep breathing and mindfulness that work for you can be extremely beneficial in challenging moments.

I think it’s very admirable how open you are about your thoughts and feelings with your spouse, that communication is so important in any relationship. Doing what you can to stay connected with each other during these times is essential to support each other despite the obstacles life sometimes throws our way.

No matter what our age, mental health issues are always difficult struggles we have to face every day. I want you to know how brave it is of you to reach out for help and openly share your experiences- I’m here rooting for you!

Hi there,

I understand what you’re going through. It’s a lot to deal with and it can be hard to stay focused in the middle of your struggles with OCD, especially when married. But I want to let you know that you are not alone – many of us have been dealing with issues related to mental health and have had difficulties while getting married.

It’s not easy but remember that deep breathing is a great tool that can help you get back in tune with yourself and stay centered during difficult moments. Also, think of the positive moments and how lucky you are to have such an amazing partner like your spouse - reminding yourself of this can be very empowering when facing anxious thoughts or intrusive images.

Life is full of ups and downs and even though managing anxiety issues is never easy, you can make an amazing improvement if you keep on practicing the skills you learn every day. So hang in there and remember that everything will work out one day at a time!