What really struck me recently was how insidious codependency can be. I’ve always prided myself on being supportive of my loved ones, but there’s this fine line between being there for someone and losing yourself in the process. I didn’t realize how much my own sense of self was tied up in the people around me until a friend pointed it out.
I used to think that helping others was just part of being a good person. But over time, I started noticing how my happiness seemed to hinge on the approval or happiness of others. It’s like, if they were doing well, I felt great, but if they were struggling, I’d spiral with them. It’s a heavy weight that I didn’t even recognize I was carrying.
Reflecting on it, I realized that I often sacrificed my own needs, preferences, and even my mental well-being for the sake of others. It’s almost like I was subconsciously afraid that if I didn’t keep everyone around me happy, I’d be left behind. Have you ever felt that way?
I started exploring ways to untangle this. It’s been both enlightening and challenging. Setting boundaries was a concept I had heard about but never fully embraced. I found that saying “no” felt uncomfortable at first, but it’s become a vital part of reclaiming my own space and identity.
I wonder, how do others navigate that tricky balance between being supportive and maintaining their own sense of self? It can feel so isolating at times, but I’m realizing that it’s okay to prioritize my own needs. Have you had similar experiences, or maybe found a way to break free from those patterns? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.