# When getting it right still leaves me anxious

**URL:** <https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/when-getting-it-right-still-leaves-me-anxious/55643>\
**Category:** Anxiety\
**Created:** [November 9, 2026, 11:30am UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/when-getting-it-right-still-leaves-me-anxious/55643 "2026-11-09T11:30:10Z")\
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**Author:** ![Mark\_Mccall](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/m/b5e925/32.png) [@Mark\_Mccall](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Mark_Mccall)\
**Post date:** [November 9, 2026, 11:30am UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/when-getting-it-right-still-leaves-me-anxious/55643/1 "2026-11-09T11:30:10Z")

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I can finish something correctly and still feel like I missed something.

That’s the part of perfectionism I have trouble explaining. It isn’t always about making mistakes. Sometimes I check everything, meet the deadline, get a decent response, and my brain still keeps searching for the problem. Maybe I overlooked one detail. Maybe someone noticed a weakness I didn’t see. Maybe the next thing will expose me.

The relief never lasts very long. I’ll get things right, but instead of feeling satisfied, I just feel temporarily safe. Then another task comes along and the whole cycle starts again.

I’m trying to pay attention to that difference. A completed task doesn’t have to produce a perfect feeling. Maybe “good enough” can still count even when my anxiety refuses to sign off on it.

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**Author:** ![Mary\_Avila](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/m/7993a0/32.png) [@Mary\_Avila](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Mary_Avila)\
**Post date:** [November 9, 2026, 1:00pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/when-getting-it-right-still-leaves-me-anxious/55643/2 "2026-11-09T13:00:55Z")

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That “temporarily safe” feeling makes a lot of sense. I’ve noticed that checking can start as a practical step, then quietly turn into a way of asking anxiety for permission to relax. It never seems willing to give a final answer.

I like your idea that the task can count even without the satisfying feeling afterward. Do you ever set a stopping rule before you begin, like checking once or twice and then treating the remaining doubt as anxiety rather than evidence?

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**Author:** ![Jessica\_Key](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/j/a9adbd/32.png) [@Jessica\_Key](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Jessica_Key)\
**Post date:** [November 9, 2026, 1:01pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/when-getting-it-right-still-leaves-me-anxious/55643/3 "2026-11-09T13:01:27Z")

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@Mary_Avila, yes, setting the rule beforehand has helped me more than deciding in the moment. In the moment, anxiety always makes one more check sound reasonable.

For emails and forms, I do one careful review, then read only the names, dates, and attachments a second time. After that, I close it and write “checked” on my notepad. The doubt still shows up, but having a clear endpoint keeps me from treating its presence as proof that something is wrong.

I’m still practicing letting the discomfort be there without reopening everything.