It’s fascinating how some feelings can creep up on you without you even realizing it. Recently, I found myself in a situation where I started to notice just how much I was thinking about someone. At first, it felt exciting—like those butterflies you get when you’re crushing on someone. But then, as it became more intense, I began to wonder if there was something deeper going on.
I remember a moment when I was hanging out with friends, and instead of being present, I was scrolling through my messages, waiting for a reply from this person. It hit me: my mind was racing with thoughts about what they were doing, who they were with, and whether or not they were thinking about me too. It was like a mental loop that I couldn’t escape.
That’s when I started to reflect on the nature of my feelings. Was I genuinely interested in getting to know them, or was I crossing the line into obsession? I mean, it’s one thing to have a crush and daydream about what could be; it’s another to lose sleep over whether they like my posts or if they’ll reply to my text.
I began to dig a bit deeper into what it means to obsess over someone. I realized that it often stems from a need for validation or a desire to fill some emotional gaps in our lives. I wondered if, in my case, I was looking for a sense of stability or reassurance that perhaps I wasn’t feeling elsewhere. It’s a tricky balance, wanting to connect while also making sure I’m not losing myself in someone else.
Talking to a friend about it helped, too. They reminded me that it’s perfectly normal to develop strong feelings, especially when you really connect with someone. However, they also pointed out the importance of keeping my sense of self intact. It’s easy to let excitement turn into fixation, and I appreciated having someone to help me navigate that.
Now, I’m trying to be mindful. I’m working on recognizing when thoughts start to spiral and reminding myself to take a step back. I’ve found that journaling helps, too. Writing down my feelings not only allows me to sort through them but also distances me a bit from the intensity of those thoughts.
Have any of you experienced something similar? How do you keep those feelings in check while still being open to the possibility of connection? It’s all a learning experience, and I’d love to hear your thoughts!