I’ve been in a few relationships in the past and have learned that I tend to have a hard time not being too obsessive. While it may feel like a good thing in the moment, it can quickly become a negative thing. I often find myself focusing on what my partner is doing and constantly wanting to be around them or check up on them. I want to spend all of my free time with them, almost forget my own life outside of our relationship.
I know this isn’t healthy but when you are so deeply attached to someone, it can be hard to find that balance between taking care of yourself and staying connected with your partner. That’s why one of the most important things I’ve tried to do is create boundaries within the relationship; ones that help both me and my partner still maintain some freedom while also making sure we continue to communicate. Setting aside “me time” each week outside of our together-time (as well as each person having their own hobbies) has helped remind me that being apart for short periods can actually help us grow closer over time.
It can be tough work dealing with these tendencies but if you put in the effort, it makes for healthier relationships down the line.