# Bipolar mood shifts have me second guessing myself

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**Category:** Bipolar\
**Created:** [November 12, 2026, 12:00pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/bipolar-mood-shifts-have-me-second-guessing-myself/55901 "2026-11-12T12:00:27Z")\
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**Author:** ![Thomas\_Myers](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/t/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Thomas\_Myers](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Thomas_Myers)\
**Post date:** [November 12, 2026, 12:00pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/bipolar-mood-shifts-have-me-second-guessing-myself/55901/1 "2026-11-12T12:00:27Z")

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Bipolar mood shifts have me second guessing myself

One week I feel sure about a decision, then my mood changes and I start wondering if I was completely wrong. I’ve learned not to make big choices during either extreme, but that’s easier said than done.

The doubt can stick around even when things settle. I end up reviewing conversations, plans, and small mistakes over and over. I’m trying to pause and remind myself that a changing mood can change my view, not necessarily the facts.

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**Author:** ![Grant\_Cortez](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Grant\_Cortez](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Grant_Cortez)\
**Post date:** [November 12, 2026, 12:01pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/bipolar-mood-shifts-have-me-second-guessing-myself/55901/2 "2026-11-12T12:01:29Z")

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Thomas, the part about a changing mood changing your view, but not necessarily the facts, really makes sense to me. I’ve had to separate what I know happened from what my mind is telling me it means.

Writing down the decision and the reasons for it when I’m steadier has helped. Later, I can check that note instead of trusting whichever mood is loudest. Do you have anyone you can run a major decision by before acting on it?

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**Author:** ![James\_Davidson](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@James\_Davidson](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/James_Davidson)\
**Post date:** [November 12, 2026, 12:02pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/bipolar-mood-shifts-have-me-second-guessing-myself/55901/3 "2026-11-12T12:02:00Z")

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@Grant_Cortez, writing down the reasons while I’m steady sounds useful. I’ve had times when a later mood made a reasonable decision look reckless, even though the facts hadn’t changed.

For major choices, I usually run them by someone I trust and ask them to focus on what’s actually changed, not just how strongly I feel that day. Waiting a day or two before acting has saved me from more than a few unnecessary reversals.

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**Author:** ![Amanda\_Macdonald](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/a/82dd89/32.png) [@Amanda\_Macdonald](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Amanda_Macdonald)\
**Post date:** [November 12, 2026, 2:01pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/bipolar-mood-shifts-have-me-second-guessing-myself/55901/4 "2026-11-12T14:01:59Z")

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@Thomas_Myers, that reminder about the facts staying the same has helped me too. When I’m caught in a different mood, I can treat the intensity of the feeling like proof, even when nothing new has actually happened.

I’ve started putting a short note somewhere I’ll find it later: what I decided, why I decided it, and what evidence would genuinely change my mind. It gives me something concrete to check when the reviewing starts. Do you find the doubt gets worse at a particular time, like late at night or after a poor night’s sleep?