# Being a sahm has left me feeling depressed and invisible

**URL:** <https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/being-a-sahm-has-left-me-feeling-depressed-and-invisible/54364>\
**Category:** Depression\
**Created:** [October 25, 2026, 5:00pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/being-a-sahm-has-left-me-feeling-depressed-and-invisible/54364 "2026-10-25T17:00:10Z")\
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**Author:** ![Elizabeth\_Palmer](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/e/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Elizabeth\_Palmer](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Elizabeth_Palmer)\
**Post date:** [October 25, 2026, 5:00pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/being-a-sahm-has-left-me-feeling-depressed-and-invisible/54364/1 "2026-10-25T17:00:10Z")

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I never expected staying home to affect me this much. The house is busy all day, but I still feel invisible in it. Meals, laundry, errands, and keeping track of everyone’s needs somehow don’t count as doing anything, even though I’m exhausted by the end of the day.

A few weeks ago, I realized I’d gone almost a whole day without having a real conversation with anyone. I was standing at the kitchen counter eating leftovers, and it hit me how lonely I’ve become. I love my family, so I feel guilty even saying that.

I’m depressed and having trouble finding any part of the day that feels like mine. Has anyone found a way to feel like a person again while staying home?

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**Author:** ![Carol\_Davis](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/c/b487fb/32.png) [@Carol\_Davis](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Carol_Davis)\
**Post date:** [October 25, 2026, 5:00pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/being-a-sahm-has-left-me-feeling-depressed-and-invisible/54364/2 "2026-10-25T17:00:59Z")

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@Elizabeth_Palmer, the part about eating leftovers at the counter really hit me. I started treating lunch as a real break instead of another task. I put my food on a plate, sit somewhere other than the kitchen, and listen to a podcast or call someone for ten minutes.

It sounds small, but having one part of the day that wasn’t for everyone else helped me feel less erased. I also told my family directly that I needed that time, rather than hoping they’d notice. because you mentioned depression, please consider telling your doctor too. You deserve support, not guilt, for feeling this way.

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**Author:** ![Lynn\_Jackson](https://forum.sharedquill.org/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/l/7feea3/32.png) [@Lynn\_Jackson](https://forum.sharedquill.org/u/Lynn_Jackson)\
**Post date:** [October 25, 2026, 5:01pm UTC](https://forum.sharedquill.org/t/being-a-sahm-has-left-me-feeling-depressed-and-invisible/54364/3 "2026-10-25T17:01:55Z")

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Carol, putting lunch on a plate and leaving the kitchen made a bigger difference for me than I expected. Eating while standing had started to feel like proof that everyone else’s needs came first.

The part about telling your family directly is what I’ve had to work on. I used to wait for someone to notice I was overwhelmed, but now I say, “I’m taking 20 minutes after lunch, please don’t ask me to do anything unless it’s urgent.” It still feels awkward sometimes, but being clear works better than hoping they’ll guess.